Preparing for Spirit
“The more you open your heart before a reading, the louder Spirit’s voice becomes.”
(Originally published August 6, 2018 — Updated October 2025)
How to Deepen Your Connection Before a Reading
The bridge to Spirit is built with intention, openness, and love.
I wanted to share a story — an example of how mediumship can be amplified when someone takes time to open their heart and begin the dialogue with Spirit before a reading even begins.
Recently, I gave a reading to a woman who hoped to connect with her brother. From the moment I sat down, I felt his energy surging through me. With every mediumship session, both the medium and Spirit work together — the medium raises their vibration while the Spirit gently lowers theirs, meeting somewhere in the middle. Every Spirit communicates differently, and every connection has its own rhythm.
Using this session as an example, I want to share some ways to prepare for a reading so you can get the most meaningful experience possible.
Set Clear Intentions
Be specific with your intention before the reading. Clarity helps Spirit tune in to your energy and bring through messages that matter most to you.
You don’t have to speak out loud — your loved ones can hear your thoughts telepathically. When you recall a memory filled with emotion, they feel it too. That shared vibration becomes a doorway for connection.
If you hope to hear from someone in particular, start communicating with them in the days or weeks leading up to your session. Talk to them, think of them, share what’s happening in your life — your relationships, your work, or even challenges you’re facing. These conversations strengthen the bond and open the energetic pathway before you even begin the reading.
During one session, a woman wrote a long letter to her brother before coming to see me. She folded it and slipped it into her pocket, along with a necklace that had meaning to him. Without knowing any of this, I felt her brother’s energy right away. He mentioned helping her write the letter and went on to answer each question she had included — even naming a family member she’d asked about. Finally, he referenced a necklace, confirming the exact one she had hidden in her pocket. Moments like that remind me how powerful intention can be.
Surrender Expectations
The most powerful readings happen when you surrender control and release expectation.
Your loved ones are eager to work with the medium to bring through validation and healing. But they can’t always say what you want them to say.
For example, if you keep silently urging, “Come on Mom, say apple, say apple!” you may block the flow of energy. Spirit will often find another way to express the same message, and I might instead hear, “Does the fruit tree mean anything to you?” — which is still your sign, just translated differently.
The medium is a filter, not a teleprompter. The more you surrender, the more clearly your loved ones can communicate.
Be Present and Breathe
Before your session, take a few moments to breathe deeply and clear your mind. The validating process of a reading works best when your energy is calm and receptive.
When people arrive anxious, distracted, or skeptical, they can experience “psychic amnesia,” momentarily forgetting key details or connections. But when you relax and open your heart, you become an active participant in the reading. Many clients tell me, “I can feel their presence right now with us!” — and they’re right. When you’re grounded, that presence becomes undeniable.
Trust the Timing
Spirit operates outside of time. A message might connect to your past, present, or future — and sometimes, it doesn’t click until long after the reading.
I remember an audience session where a woman’s husband promised to send her a penny, heads up, in a very specific way. It didn’t make sense to her then, but after the event, she went to lunch with a friend. When their meals arrived, she looked down and — unbelievably — there it was: a penny, heads up, sitting right on her plate.
Messages often reveal themselves when the moment is right. When you look back later, you realize the timing was perfect all along.
Open Your Heart
Preparing for Spirit is about more than technique — it’s about trust.
When you calm your mind, set your intention, and let go of how the experience “should” unfold, you create a space where the divine can move freely. Spirit meets us where love resides — and in that space, miracles happen.
